One month ago today, I married my best friend and the love of my life. We have signed on the dotted line, exchanged our vows, had an AMAZING honeymoon and returned back to reality…
While it has only been 4 weeks, I already know it was the best decision of my life and it’s been so much fun so far! It feels like just yesterday I was writing the “Wedding Week: Reminiscing Over My Engagement” post and still tying together the last minute details of the wedding. Now the wedding has come and gone and I’ve officially had a month of calling Matt “my husband” (which is awesome but so strange at the same time)!
I am planning on posting all about my wedding as there is SO MUCH still to talk about, but I wanted to write a post on my thoughts as a newlywed one month in — it might be fun to look back on this post a year from now and see how much my thoughts have changed (or maybe they haven’t?).
Here are a few of the other things I have learned in the past 31 days:
Things that were once “ifs” have now become “whens”
I’m a big planner… but I have always been very careful about planning too far ahead as I didn’t want to scare him away. But once you are married, you don’t have to be quite so careful as more and more topics that once were “ifs” and now “whens”… and I love it!
Dividing up responsibility is awesome
Let me just tell you – it is SO nice to know that I don’t have to do everything on my own. There are certain tasks or chores that I find burdensome, but my husband is happy to handle, and vice versa. It’s been fun to take charge o things I love/am good at and watch him do the same. We’re still learning our roles and establishing a system that works for us, but so far it’s been great not having to do everything by myself!
You learn how to fight more fairly
Our relationship isn’t perfect and sometimes we disagree, I’ve noticed we both have started to make more effort to try to understand where the other person is coming from without jumping to quick conclusions. We’re a team for better and for worse – so the goal isn’t for one of us to “win”, but to “win” together. Knowing we’re in this forever has changed our outlook for the better.
I have no regrets over our honeymoon spending
Our honeymoon was everything and more that we had hoped for. We had a nice mix of adventure, relaxation and romance and I don’t think anyone should or would ever regret splurging on anything vacation-related during this time. Newlywed bliss + time away from every other person = amazing instagram photos, increased intimacy, and forever memories we will always look back on!
There’s no one else I’d rather go on this journey with!
Simply put: I love my husband with my whole heart and there’s no one else I’d rather do this life with.