Being happy sounds like such an easy thing to do, right? We all know that it’s really not that simple!
I believe one of the main traits of happy people is that they live in the present moment. These people have found a way to be happy with what they have, who they are and where they are.
It is so easy to think about what you want to be or want to go in the future and get hung up on the fact that you’re not there yet. It is also easy to compare your life to someone else’s and wonder why others seem to be happy and you aren’t.
There may also be things that we are doing that may be holding us back from the happiness we all desire. With that being said, I truly believe that to be happy with where you are, what you have and who you are, it is important to get rid of some destructive habits first.
Keep on reading if you are interested in reading about some of the destructive habits I think we need to get rid of and improve in ours lives…
Here are 10 destructive habits we should all kick out of our lives and/or improve to be happy and stay happy:
~ Let go of jealousy
Jealousy can cause perfectly rational people to turn into raging creatures of anger and hate. Try to focus on your own journey and not the journey of others. Let go of your jealous emotion and stop comparing yourself to others – you are special and you deserve to be happy!
~ Stop thinking about yesterday, the past is in the past
Letting go and to stop thinking about what has happened in the past sounds a lot easier than it actually is. It’s hard to forgive, let go and move on from resentment and hurt feelings. It can sometimes feel as if we are letting someone, or ourselves, off the hook without any sort of consequence. Forgiveness is a way to face what has happened, acknowledge the mistake, learn from it and move on. Forgiving and moving on does not mean you are saying what happened is okay and letting it go – you are deciding you are not going to let it bring you down anymore!
~ Cut out the negative people in your life
This can seem a bit harsh, but it’s true. Why surround yourself with people who bring you down and emotional drain you? Their negativity will rub off onto you and it will start to make you unhappy. Associate yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself, who love you for who you are and won’t burden you with their problems.
~ Embrace your mistakes, learn and move on
Failure isn’t failure until you give up! Failures are the way that we learn and improve ourselves and our lives. They are the building blocks of our success and you can’t let it become a fear of yours. There is no such thing as an overnight success, everything takes time and effort and you need to work for what you want. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes, you live and you learn!
~ Disconnect from the world
This is a really hard thing to do in today’s world! Having a phone, laptop, tablet, etc, is great and all, but I think most people would be completely lost without technology because it is something that can be very addictive and habitual to us. I like to switch off all my technological devices for AT LEAST an hour during the day and at night and it really helps my mood! Unplugging yourself from social media can also help remove unhealthy feelings of jealousy, envy, loneliness and helps combat the fear of missing out. You don’t need to be connected all the time – there is more to life and you could be missing out on so much because you are so caught up in your technology!
~ Love yourself
Easier said than done, right? Check out my post for more of my thoughts on how to love yourself – How To: Love Yourself.
It is important to remember that nobody’s perfect. We must learn to accept ourselves and to be kind to ourselves when things go wrong.
~ Connect with people
Our relationships with other people are one of the most important things for our happiness. People that have strong relationships are happier, healthier and live longer because these close relationships provide love, meaning, support and increase our feelings of self-worth. It is so important that we take action and make time to strengthen our relationships and make new connections.
~ Take care of your body
Body and mind are connected. Staying active not only makes us healthier, but it also helps make us happier! It improves our mood instantly and can lift us out of depression and stress. There are many things we can do each day to be active – go for a walk, go for a run, have a dance party in your room! We can also help our bodies by spending more time outside, eating healthy, unplugging from technology and getting enough sleep.
~ Keep positivity alive
Do something that you know will make you feel good – listen to music, watch something funny, go outside or call a friend! Positive emotions don’t just feel good, they also help us perform better! Your attitude is contagious and when you switch your mindset from negativity to positivity, you will begin to attract more positive people in your life. Check out my post all about joy, How To: Choose Joy and read about some easy ways we can choose joy in our lives.
If all else fails, LAUGH! Laughter is infectious and it instantly puts you in a better mood. Sometimes I laugh so much that I end up crying and it strangely feels so good! I love getting together with family and friends and sharing old stories and photos and having a good laugh. Laughter is the best medicine!