There are many types of relationships we may have in life – the one with your significant other, the one with your family, the ones with your friends, the ones with your co-workers, the one with your pet and the most important one – with yourself. Unfortunately, many of us may overlook or not even realize that we have a relationship with ourselves. Personally, I’ve always been quite hard on myself, always striving for perfection and success in all things, and if it didn’t turn out the way I hoped, I would be very negative and this ultimately affected all aspects of my life and my mindset.
We all go through rough days where we may be disappointed in ourselves and it is so easy to get into a cycle of self-hate, but it’s quite hard to come out of it. I think we need to remember that we are doing the best we can with what we have and what we know and instead of being negative, we should celebrate ourselves and our accomplishments and love who we are as individuals.
Here are a few tips I feel are useful in order to better your relationship with yourself and love yourself for who you are:
~ BE GRATEFUL
Being grateful for everything and everyone in our lives helps remind us how fortunate and lucky we are! Some things we can be grateful for is good health, a job, a loving family, a significant other, food, water, clothes, somewhere to live – the list is endless! By being grateful, you will learn to appreciate life in more ways than one and you will find yourself in a better mood. Remember, there is always something to be grateful for!
~ TURN IT AROUND
Turn away from the negativity! It is easy to listen to that negative voice in your head telling you that you can’t do something or you are not worth it – don’t let that voice bring you down! Acknowledge there is a problem, think of solutions and figure out a way to downsize it and improve – maybe there’s a lesson in there as well! You will encounter many obstacles and difficulties in your life and you will overcome them and they will make you stronger!
~ LEARN TO FORGIVE YOURSELF
This is something I am sure we all need to work on! We have all done things we are not proud of or thought we could have done better – but what’s done, is done and we need to move on. Is there anything you can do about it now? Probably not much – so why hold on to that disappointment and anger? You are a human being and you will make mistakes just like everyone else. Try and let go of the things you can’t change and forgive yourself in the process.
~ CHILL OUT
Take a breather. Take time to relax and chill out – even if it’s just for half an hour to read a book, take a bath or have a quick nap. Taking some time off for yourself will help you reflect and get in touch with your inner self. Having a little “me time” will help you feel refreshed and uplifted and better able to face all other aspects of your life!
~ DO SOMETHING FOR YOU
It is so important to include yourself in your weekly schedule – do something you love to do to make you feel good and/or look good, such as going for a walk/run, getting a haircut, splurging on an item you’ve always wanted, buying yourself some flowers, etc. You know yourself best so you should know what you want and need, go for it, treat yourself for once!
To love yourself takes practice and a conscious effort, however, it is possible for everyone – you can and should love yourself before all else! Promise yourself to work on it every day because it is so important to have a positive relationship with yourself to live a happy and fulfilling life.